I’ve met a lot of people in my life but there are few that really leave a memorable print in my heart. Who are they you ask? Well, I won’t name them all but Nicolle Sharkey is one of them. I will not go into detail about how we met and why because it doesn’t really matter, what matters is the imprint she left on me. I’m not even sure she knows any of this! But she will now! Surprise Nicolle!
I was a child when I met Nicolle but I vividly remember this beautiful blue-eyed blonde bombshell of a woman with the brightest face and kindest smile. I was in awe….I guess as a young girl you look at older women and try to imagine what you’d be like when you’re their age? We may have only exchanged a few words but I took notice of how she moved and interacted with people. She was so nice! That word is not even the right word to describe her…she just seemed like a kind soul. The last time I saw her without children was at a family gathering to say Goodluck to her and Jules (her partner) as they were moving Australia. That brings me to what this blog is about today. It’s about Nicolle and her partners journey with IVF (Invitro fertilization).
Nicolle is 39, she started her own business in 2020, specialising in keeping children safe through injury prevention education to new and expectant parents. She is also a mum of two beautiful girls Ivy (5) and Aria (2).
Nicolle always wanted to be a mum in her mid 30s after establishing a career first and looking at all their options. She wanted to be a mum when the time was right and with the right person. She knew Jules was that person and because they were both family orientated, it was only a matter a time before they would start one of their own. But let me start off with a little love story first.
Nine years ago, the couple were staying at a dreamy hotel called The Witchery in Edinburgh and Nicolle felt like Royalty. On their last day there, breakfast was served in their room and boom! Jules got down on one knee and asked Nicolle to marry her. There were tears of joy and Nicolle of course said YES!! Nicolle says “It may be the longest engagement in history because we have done so much before a wedding….” It’s a milestone they still wish to reach and hopefully it happens in the next year or so as Australia has now legalised same-sex marriages (I mean sure took your time Australia!).
But back to those wee girls. How did these two precious miracle babies come to be? You go it – IVF. At the time, Nicolle and Jules were living on The Sunny Coast in Queensland, Australia where specialists in IVF were located. All they needed to do was A LOT of research and find their perfect clinic and doctor. When they settled on all that, the first step in their journey was counselling, then “it was all systems go”! They discussed menstrual cycles, medication, healthy eating and so much more! The entire process took Nicolle and Jules over a year as their first attempt wasn’t successful. There were ups and downs in their journey, but they were determined! In the end, their determination paid off and they got the news they always wanted. Nicolle was pregnant with their first, it was exciting and surreal all at once!
Two years later they embarked on that same journey all over again as they wanted Ivy to have a sibling. Two years and 9 months later they were blessed again with another beautiful girl named Aria. Nicolle says, “we still can’t believe the miracle that is procreation and that we have two healthy little girls that we absolutely adore”.
Together for 16 years, Nicolle and Jules have been through so much but their greatest achievement is becoming parents. They are still learning and having children has taught them a lot about themselves and what kind of life they want to create for their girls.
Nicolle makes clear the process is emotionally challenging with highs and lows, but everyone’s situation is different. If you are surrounded by love and support like they were, then it’s nothing like you’ve ever experienced. “So, if you are seeking treatment for a baby, do it whatever the outcome may be. If you end up with a miracle baby in your arms, then it’s worth everything you’ve gone through”.
After everything they have been through, Nicolle and Jules now lead a simple and settled life. They are a family of strong-willed girls!
I end this blog with a quote by Nicolle which I don’t want to reword. It’s perfect just as she wrote it.
“The last 5 years have gone by so fast and I have come to learn that some of the simple things in life, like going to the park or just being together are the most important things in life”.
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